10 things you need to ask yourself before getting married, commit,

So you’re getting married. Are you sure you’re making a good decision or are you taking this on a dare?(Yes I’m talking to you Britney). Here are some things you may need to think about before taking the plunge.

1)    Are you in Love with the one you are marrying? This is the one question that you need to ask above others. Other questions may be legitimate as well but they are not as important as this one. If the marriage fails for some other reason afterwards, you can always say that you married the person because you love him or her. And that’s something.
2)    Are you sexually attracted to him or her? Sexual attraction is important especially in the early years of marriage, it forms a bond between the two of you and is the ultimate expression of love.
3)    Do you agree on having or not having children? This is an important issue that people need to be clear with. For some people, this is a deal breaker and agreeing with the other’s choice before marriage in the hopes of changing his r her mind during marriage is the very foundation of an explosive fight.
4)    Are you good with your spouse’s family? And Vice versa?- Remember that while you may be marrying a solitary person, this does not mean that their family will not be involved in some way. It is okay if you’re not but it would be better if you have good relations with your spouse’s family especially if they are a tightly-knit family.
5)    Are you willing to Commit? Fidelity is different from love. Ideally, they go hand in hand. Marriage demands both and even more so, commitment. Other than emotional wounds when the commitment is broken, there can also be some dire practical problems that can arise.

6) Should you get a prenuptial? Prenuptial agreement of any kind is an uncomfortable topic for the couple as it is one that essentially involves money. I know that at the time you are in love and believe that you will be married forever. However, one needs to be practical and think long and hard about this. The best way to do this is to look at it more as a business transaction and be clear with everything.

7) How will our money going to be handled? Again another money question. This is very important because the money would most likely be conjugal and how it will be spent may be a big issue. Discuss these things with your spouse to be before getting married so that there will be no resentments during the marriage.

What kind of wedding do you want? Sometimes the wedding itself is overlooked by the parties. For the most part, the wedding is thought about as the woman’s day and therefore all her whims and caprices should be followed. Remember however that two of you are getting married and it is his marriage as well. Moreover, most of the time it is the guy who is spending for the event and therefore he needs to have a say especially as to the cost.

9) What will be the set-up at home? This question is a generic question covering all the details of living together as husband and wife. This includes which side of the bed you will sleep on, who will prepare the food or even where you will live. While people think that all of these things are unimportant and will be ironed out in due time, this question still needs to be resolved.

10) Are you happy? Happiness is a good place to start when getting married. You should be happy that you’re getting married. The usual joke is that marriage is like a ball and chain but deep down inside, people want that ball and chain. You need to get married because it makes you happy.